Tam’s Tidbits

Grandmommy’s Soap

by Tammy A. Phillips

Grandmommy always brought cheap soap; four bars in a bag for one dollar.   I had only used it to wash my hands. One day I took a bath using the soap in the bag. The pain from itching was quick and severe. Immediately, I rinsed off, got out of the tub and complained, loudly.

“Grandmommy, why do you buy cheap soap?   Mommy buys IVORY, and it never itches me.   This cheap soap hurts.” While drying dishes, never looking at me, she said, “There is nothing wrong with the soap. You started rubbing and disturbed the dirt.”


Grandmommy’s soap reminds me of challenging commandments from the Word of God:

“…Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you… (God, I must do this for someone who lies to me?) Matthew 5:44 Continue reading

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by Sharman J. Monroe

(AFTERNOON DELIGHT! are inspirational message shared at 2 p.m. to help you get through the rest of your day.  You can read them on Ms. Monroe’s Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/SuccessfulGrowth)

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and well-balanced mind and discipline and self-control. 2 Timothy 1:7 (AMP)

The world is not always a good place to be. Wars, racial violence, sex trafficking, child abuse, road rage, rampant profanity, pornography, widespread compromise and deceit, mistrust and pervasive fear surround us. Some of us face these things in our home. How do we not snap back and curse someone who is rude to us? How do we walk away from gossip?   How do we not join the “group think” that, depending on the situation, compromise and lies are okay? How do we Christians not get pulled into all this worldly turmoil? We choose not to.

The Word says we are spirit, soul and body (1 Thessalonians 5:23). God has not deposited timidityNOFEAR in our spirit. So when it comes to choosing between things of man and things of God, we can fearlessly chose God (Psalm 118: 6). As Christians, we must not be afraid of dissociating ourselves from the “group think” of the world and display the traits of God (Galatians 5:22-23). God has given us the ability to control ourselves. It’s not always easy or our first inclination. But if we choose to take a moment before reacting…just a moment…we can exercise our God-given self-control.

Today take a moment.


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The Anchors That Hold Us

by Heidi Gates

It is often when we have had victory over many storms in our lives, thanks to a faithful God, and we are positioned at the birthing of a new life, that fear will come and attempt to grip us. Fear can paralyze our progress. Just by the sheer love of God, He has made me fearless.  1 John 4:18: “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear has torment. He who fears is not made perfect in love.”

When fear begins to enter into a situation, I begin to question myself on what area of my life am I disobedient.anchor-284440_1280 Disobedience to God is sin and that sin brings guilt. It is the guilt that then opens the door to fear. I will fear what is to come when I have guilt in my heart. So often it is simply disobeying what God is asking us to do for our own good and spiritual growth. That fear, that we now have inadvertently allowed to anchor us, can begin to chip away at our Godly Confidence. The torment can be found in what now begins to be Continue reading

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The Dreaded Woman

by Sharman J. Monroeanonymous-376540_1280

I’m a woman and the words “Proverbs 31 woman” make me cringe. Every Mother’s Day when the male pastors dust off their sermons about the Proverbs 31 woman, I check out. I wonder if they really understand what they are talking about. I roll my eyes at the thought of getting up everyday while it’s still dark outside and everyone is still sleeping to make breakfast, lunch and dinner for my household (Prov. 31:15). The thought of planting and maintaining a garden to feed my family on top of making everyone’s clothes makes my head spin. (Prov. 31:16-22). I suck my teeth at the thought of my husband sitting around doing nothing with his buddies who slyly slap him on the back for having a woman who does all the work (Prov. 31:28). This is 2015! I have a 9 to 5 outside of the house! And what about the single woman who doesn’t have children or a husband? I don’t see any mention of her. I think the Proverbs 31 standard is impossible to reach. I definitely don’t feel I reach it; I’m not even close. But I know God and I know He doesn’t direct us to do anything that we are unable to do. So, recently as I forced myself to read Proverbs 31 (I was doing a Proverbs 31-Day challenge), I asked God to help me. I asked for a revelation because something was wrong. This is what God revealed me.

A Proverbs 31 woman is a woman Continue reading


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