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Timing is Important

by Tammy Phillips

Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.” James 1:19

Lesbianism was not a national topic in the early 1980’s. Women were feminine and men were masculine; there was no celebration for the contrary. This was our reality when we walked into a women’s prison to present a Growing in Christ seminar. The chaplain and the instructor were seasoned; the rest of us were brand new. Incredulously, we watched the women walk into the gathering area; ninety women formed forty-five couples. Some of the women were more masculine than a stereotypical macho man. Our instructor was gracious; we reluctantly followed her lead.

The women were separated into small groups, facilitated by a volunteer. Each of us had at least four couples in our group. Irritation marked my face. At the first break, we descended on our passive instructor; “You’ve got to say something, do something about this.”   Her response was, “We are guests in their house. Do what we came here to do.”   This was the wrong answer, but we continued our small group facilitation after each of her lecture sessions.   Several more times we begged her to address the situation; each time she Continue reading

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Holding One Another Up or Down

(This is a re-post, with permission, from the daily devotional, Get Your JOY In The Morning! by Joy T.J. Riley)

Romans 12:15
15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those mourn.

How many of us really believe that we are to share in one others joys and sorrows as the apostle Paul wrote?two-315913_1280 More importantly, how many of us actually practice it? Simon of Cyrene had to help carry the cross when Jesus was too weak to carry his own to Golgotha in Matthew 27. It was actually a symbolism of how we must share in the burdens of others not just their joys.

Truthfully, many revel in the mourning of others. They would rather see a person fall than succeed. Yet it is our duty as followers of Christ to hold one another up just as Simon assisted Jesus. As the apostle Paul said, we are one body with many parts and no one part can function on its own.

But some mask themselves as having the quality of caring yet it’s nothing more than to go behind your back. Some only care to know the details of your life as a way to sabotage you Continue reading

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It’s All Part of the Same Spiritual Pie

by Sharman J. Monroe

pie-slicedI’m guilty. I’ve written post after post talking about the value of reading or listening to material that improves the way you think and act.   An enlightened mind takes your thoughts and actions to new, higher levels of achievement. The Bible teaches:

Do not be conformed to this world [any longer with its superficial values and customs], but be transformed and progressively changed [as you mature spiritually] by the renewing of your mind [focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes].   Romans 12:2 (AMP)

And I’ve spent my time doing exactly that – focusing on my personal development by reading and listening to materials that enhance my thinking and actions.

But recently I had a revelation. Personal development encompasses more than the way you think. It also encompasses other areas of your life.

  1. Your Physical Being. The Word teaches:

Do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? 1 Corinthians 6:19 (NJKV)

But [like a boxer] I strictly discipline my body and make it my slave… 1 Corinthians 9:27 (AMP)

Your body is a temple, a sacred creation. You don’t misuse and abuse your church building, which is also a temple, so don’t misuse and abuse your body. Being healthy is vital. If you feel sluggish, you act sluggishly. Be sure to incorporate exercise into your day. You can start small by just adding more walking during your day. Invest in a good pedometer to count your steps. Exercise reduces stress, and lowers blood pressure and cholesterol. Watch what you eat. A steady diet of fast food, skipped breakfasts and snack food can lead to deficiencies in the nutrients and vitamins that your body needs to function properly. Add more fruit, vegetables and water to your diet. You will feel great and have more energy!

  1. Your Finances. The Word teaches:

Bring all the tithes (the tenth) into the storehouse, so that there may be food in My house, and test Me now in this,” says the Lord of hosts, “if I will not open for you the windows of heaven and pour out for you [so great] a blessing until there is no more room to receive it. Malachi 3:10 (AMP)

Owe no one anything except to love one another, for he who loves another has fulfilled the law. Romans 13:8 (NJKV)

Be diligent to know the state of your flocks… Proverbs 27:23 (NJKV)

God gives us a lot of instruction on how to handle money so it doesn’t become an idol or control us. I don’t need to tell you how stressful dealing with money can be. You can relieve that stress by, first and foremost, tithing at least 10% of your gross income. Then make a spending plan (I don’t like the word “budget”) each month for the balance of the income, deducting expenditures daily. Create a plan to reduce your debt and Continue reading

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Why I Stopped Praying Against Fear


“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:7 (NLT)

Hi. My name is Julie. And for entirely too long my middle name might as well have been Fear.
Fear influenced many of my decisions. Fear amplified my imagination in a bad way — I was the worst-case scenario queen. Fear even tried to prevent me from moving forward in obedience to what I sensed God calling me to do.

So I did what any wise believer would do. I prayed. For years, I diligently prayed against fear. That God would take away my fear. That fear would leave me alone. That fear would vanish. That fear would be far from me.

Eventually I realized those prayers would probably require me to live in a bubble, limit my interactions with people, never attempt anything that could be considered risky and quite possibly never leave my house.

Ahem … Continue reading

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