What’s Your Status?

What’s Your Status?

By: Chris Allen

“What’s your status?” is not only a popular term on Facebook, but also amongst people; Are you still single? You’re not married yet? When are you going to settle down? Are you still married to ________? As if the answer will somehow determine your state of being or they will determine based on your answer that you are doing ok.

Your status does not determine your happiness, joy or contentment or at least it shouldn’t. In Phil. 4:11 Paul says “I have learned to be content in whatever state I find myself in.” There is nothing on earth that last forever. We don’t know from moment to moment where we will end up in life or where this life will take us. For those of you who are married, you could suddenly find yourself single via divorce or becoming widowed. I know firsthand being previously married for 20 years and finding myself single for the last 2 years via divorce and it was not my idea. That is why it is so important that we know who we are in Christ, so no matter what comes or who goes we will be able to carry on, because we understand who and where our source of contentment lies –  in the One who never changes, never moves; He is our firm foundation.

For those of you who are single, you can suddenly find yourself walking down the aisle with the one you have been waiting and praying for, but know this upfront, MARRIAGE IS NOT A CURE FOR SINGLENESS! You better know who you are and be whole in Christ, and so should the one you intend to marry. . Marriage will not complete you, nor is it the other person’s job or mandate to do so.. God will make sure of it.  He will never allow anything or anyone, but Him to complete you or fill those voids in you.

Don’t let married people fool you Singles!  I know because I lived as a married person for far more years than as a single person.  As a single person, I have some of the very same struggles I had when I was married, some even more so as a married person. I have been at times desperately lonely when I was married.  I have only experienced times of loneliness as a single because I know where my source contentment lies.  I am now whole and complete in Christ.

So remember that God purposely put in us an empty space that God and God alone can completely fill. God did this because, although He has given us free will of choice, His desire is for us to choose Him to fill that space.  When we try to fill that space with everything but God it will lead us to live empty and defeated lives chasing only what God can give us. We fall into the sin of idolatry, putting people, places and things in the place of God. “God is the most consistent, constant, unshakable, unchanging, immovable person in our lives; everything else is subject to change, to move, and to shift.

So it is not of matter of status. It’s a matter of knowing where your source of contentment lies and choosing to become a person wholly and fully filled with God Himself! Eph. 3:19

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Tam’s Tidbits

Dependable Daddy

By: Tammy Phillips

Late on summer days, after jumping rope and playing jacks, my sisters and I would wait for my dad to come home from work. At some point, we would look up and see a figure making its way down the street. When we realized who it was, we would run the length of the block, screaming, “Daddy, Daddy.” We would catch up to him, excitedly jump up and down and then walk with him to our house. After a few summers of this behavior, we stopped anticipating daddy’s arrival. We stopped running up the street. We stopped caring whether he showed up at all. We had gotten too old to be running up the street, screaming. And besides, Daddy was dependable. He always came home, made sure we had a house to live in, food to eat, clothes to wear. My mother told me years later how much it hurt daddy that we stopped enthusiastically escorting him home.

When our relationship with the Lord is young, we are excited, jumping up and down, at least on the inside, at His movements in our lives. We run excitedly to our Bibles, to our prayer times, to our churches and walk around with our Savior. God is dependable. He always takes care of us according to His riches in glory. But, sometimes, we get slack. Anticipation at what the Lord has to say to us diminishes. Our time with the Lord is no longer a priority. Then, we stop showing up all together. God, who desires a close relationship with us, is hurt when we neglect our time with Him.

We never again ran up our block to greet our dad after a long day at work. But, we did choose to run to spend time with him and help him when our mother died, his health failed and death eventually took him. We can choose every day to run to God through our Lord Jesus Christ. He is willing and waiting to walk with us through our daily lives together.

 

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#LikeAGirl

by Sharman J. Monroe

While I was waiting to hear the weather report on the news (that’s the only thing I have it on for by the way), I heard a story that caught my attention so I sat down to watch. It’s a new campaign by Always called #LikeAGirl. The purpose of the campaign is to make people aware that using the phrase “like a girl” as in “you throw like a girl” is an insult and has a huge impact on an adolescent girl’s self-confidence. I applaud the campaign! However, the need for the campaign shows that more and more people are buying into the world’s view of the men and women, which is breeds negativity and dissatisfaction, instead of God’s view of men and women, which breeds peace and contentment.

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SATISFIED

Print   By: Chris Allen

Satisfied: to have enough; to be full… sufficient.

 God purposely put in us an empty space. This space is called an innate spirit that God and God alone can completely fill. God did this because, although He has given us free will of choice, His desire is for us to choose Him to fill that space.  But due to sin, selfishness, self-centeredness, pride, and the deception of Satan, we try to fill that space with everything but God which leads us to live empty and defeated lives chasing only what God can give us. We fall into the sin of idolatry, putting people, places and things in the place of God.  

Why do we “work so hard for things that are not enough, that can never fill you up, and are endlessly insufficient?” (Beth Moore)

Isaiah 55:2 (Amplified Bible): Why do you spend your money for that which is not bread, and your earnings for what does not satisfy? Hearken diligently to Me, and eat what is good, and let your soul delight itself in fatness [the profuseness of spiritual joy].

“God is the most consistent, constant, unshakable, unchanging, immovable person in our lives; everything else is subject to change, to move, and to shift.” (Chris Allen)

 

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